"Being a girl"

3/11/14

note: Walking to Carver Road library=lime green vehichle[chemical name] followed by white male authority driving white authority vehicle followed by white van with "Joy of the World" church van =with today being 311[3K's][kkk];

This blog has information about techniques to be used concerning "Bullying" which one of the things is to tell authority; book did not say what to do when it is authority doing the bullying;

The book is titled, "Being a girl" by Kim Cattrall;p. 88-91;

Chapter-"Mean Girl"s;
“Even R=rugged individualists are not immune to the joy of belonging, but it you’re giving up your self respect, your principles, or your integrity to do what other people think you should do, the price you’re paying for going along with the group is too high.
Sometimes groups of girls move from being friendly individuals enjoying each other’s company to behaving like queen bees ruling a hive.  Suddenly, the goup you feel most comfortable hanging out with inexplicably morphs into a clinque where no one gets in-and no one gets out-without paying a heavy emotional price.
HOW WILL YOU KNOW WHEN, OR IF YOUR PALS HAVE CROSSED THE LINE?
LOOK FOR THE FOLLOWING SIGNS:

1. Your group insists on approving all your social choices.
2. 2. Your group has targeted someone to ridicule.
3. A set number of girls must be maintained in your group. A new person can be admitted only when someone else gets kicked out.
4. Your fiends have rules regarding clothing, hairstyles, or lunch room/hallway conduct that must be followed.
5. Those who don’t follow the rules are punished in some agreed-way.
6. Group discussions revolve around gossip.

If this is happening in y our group, you might want to kick yourself out and look for some new friends.  Be aware that this may make you the subject of the group’s gossip or ridicule.  You’ll need to find strength in your own convictions in order to move on.p.88
“Sadly, I can report that toxic cliques do not end in school.  In my adult life, I have witnessed an alarming amount of this disturbing social dynamic.  In social and professional circles of power and influence, the queen-bee mentality is alive and kicking.[think high school, with money.] [Would like to add that in local community/professional and social circles of power and influence that the toxic cliques are alive and kicking];p.89
Try to distinguish between information and gossip;
AND BULLIES
Bullying is more than just teasing.  It can take the form of name-calling, intimidation, spreading rumors, sending harassing or backbiting emails or texts, taking someone else’s stuff,[Gwyndolyn Gwyn’s son taking down my mailbox/and pulling a weapon on me for trying to put my mailbox back up], as well as physicall aggression like pushing, shoving or hitting.  Bullies typically feel inadequate, ugly or weak in some critical way`and gain a perverse sense of power and control by making other people suffer. 
The worse kind of bully is what experst identify as the “UNDERCOVER” type.   This person is Miss or Mr. congeniality on the surface but, unfortunately, you know better.  Undercover bullies are the most poisonous of all because they are the hardest to spot.p.90

HERE ARE SOME STRATEGIES YOU CANA USE TO KEEP BULLIES FROM GETTING THE BEST OF YOU:

1. Tell someone in AUTHORITY;

Sometimes it seems wiser to suffer in silence. But it’s important that friends, parents, bosses, coaches, or sometimes even law enforcement officials (in serious cases, such as threats of bodily h arm) are aware when you are being harassed, so  you can work together to end it. KEEPING THE BULLYING A SECRET ONLY ENSURES THAT IT WILL CONTINUE[which is why I post details of situations on line so who/when/why/where bullying is taking place will be known as it relates to trying to live a normal, healthy life];

2. STRENGHT IN NUMBERS:

Real friends back each other up;If a bully tries to single out one of you for personal attention. If you present a united front and refuse to be intimidated, a bully will USUALLY move on to easier pray.

3. DO NOT RETALIATE:

Most of he time; what UNDERCOVER bullies want most is to get a rise out of you and see you make a fool of yourself.p.91

Godwillst